The next few days after the anniversary the Sarge spent a lot of time on the phone with old friends talking about the time, 20 years earlier, when their world had been shaken, their friend lost, and the horror of a mother's violence exposed. They remembered how they had healed themselves with their friendship, faith, and some counseling. The ability to heal each other is one of our great gifts, one we often take for granted, and reaching out in a time of sorrow and remembrance is a truly great thing.
Police suicide is a topic no one wants to talk about, but the statistics do not lie and officers, leaders, and agencies as a whole are beginning to finally take steps to deal with it. Helplines have been established and hopefully are posted throughout agencies everywhere. Peer support groups are growing, and more and more specialists are trained to deal with the unique stressors faced by first responders, we who deal with horrors that civilians often live a lifetime without ever encountering.
The very idea of "police suicides" seems ironic since police are the ones people call to save them from a terrible crisis of some type. The iconic image in modern media of strength is the law enforcement officer, or some other heroic first responder. Our reluctance to discuss, or even face, the suicide problem is one of the basic human conundrums: how do we deal with the weaknesses of our heroes and our friends? In fact, our very understanding, or lack thereof, of suicide only adds to the confusion.
Emile Durkheim, one of the fathers of sociology, studied the remarkable rise of suicides in his time, 1897, and attributed it to an individual in a state of "anomie," adrift, without social morés, often in a time of rising civilization. He found a similar phenomenon in the Roman Empire, but all his theorizing and research never really pinned down a workable solution, cause, or even predictor for the problem of suicide. An abundance of "theories" have arisen since Durkheim first addressed the problem as a focus of research, with precious few solutions.
Regardless, the nature of the crisis requires us to realize that each of us has a responsibility to support each other. If a friend seems remote or distracted, reach out…care. The solution to "anomie," Durkheim's detachment from the anchors of society, would seem to be the power of human interaction and concern, caring and understanding, friendship and support. I am sure there are a plethora of PhDs with checklists of symptoms and schedules of treatments, but since when do we wait for others to save our friends? Get your suffering brothers and sisters to those experts, ask them what is wrong, talk to each other after a crisis, or if an anniversary is hitting YOU hard, do something. Care!
I love to read about all sorts of things, especially things that affect our profession, but I do not like reading about suicides. However, ever since my college days when I minored in sociology, the theories of suicides have fascinated me. But all the research, all the grants, all the theories, don't make the problem any better until each of us acts on them. Talk to each other, keep faith in your life's mission, and take time to listen to friends when they are hurting. Stay safe.
Dave Smith is an internationally recognized law enforcement trainer and is the creator of "JD Buck Savage." You can follow Buck on Twitter at @thebucksavage.
