She walks into the police station, pregnant, and with two children in tow. Her face is swollen, her hair matted with blood. In an enraged voice she tells the police that she is tired of being beaten, wants her boyfriend arrested, and promises to prosecute this time. Although they have heard all of this five times before, the police nevertheless take pictures and her statement, suspecting all along that the case will never see the inside of a courtroom.
Sound familiar? Unfortunately, the above scenario is all too common. As a former police officer and assistant prosecutor I always had trouble understanding why battered women remain in abusive relationships. For instance, while working as a uniformed officer, it was quite common for the female victim to demand that I arrest her assailant. But during the process of effecting that arrest, she would often turn on me as if I were the bad guy. Moreover, after working as an assailant prosecutor, I became even more surprised when the victim not only demanded that the charges against her abuser be dropped, she would even go so far as testifying on his behalf.








