There are those who don't want to reach out for help within organized, formal programs. Understood. Maybe you'd rather speak to your own spiritual counselor? Or maybe you just need a good conversation with a trusted confidante to recharge your batteries.
More and more officers are becoming victims of a level of stress that, if not attended to, could turn them into the psychologically walking wounded. They know they need to reach out to someone. Fear holds them back. It's not a signal of weakness to reach out. It's not a career ender; they aren't coming to cart you away. We want to clear you up and get you back in the mix.
When I notice stress taking a stronger hold of an officer, I'm obligated to offer formal remedies. If rejected, I then ask whether they have a trusted confidante. These are people who know you well. When you speak with them, their counsel makes the world a better place. Your brain functions like any finely-tuned machine. Sometimes your psyche needs that oil change.
It's important to have these helping folks identified and within reach of a phone call, when you or they need it. The relationship is often a two-way street. Sometimes, you're a helper to them. Call this a battle buddy if you like. I've been fortunate to have had a few of these people. When I talk with them, I feel better.
I usually call an old colleague who knows me well enough to hear me and can tell me what I need to hear, rather than what I may want to hear. Not in a condescending way, just listening and giving me the direction I need. These are the valuable friends who make it easier to maneuver through life. Reach out and keep the lines open. Don't wait until it's too late or too all-encompassing. Do yourself a favor today. Give your contact a call and get a good handle on the day. You won't regret it.
