At one time or another, we have all seen examples of what not to do. I have learned more from experiencing leadership failures than by reading any books on the subject. I only have to think back to my FTO days for my first example. One of my FTOs was so out of shape he couldn't catch his breath, let alone a bad guy. He was sloppy, his officer safety was horrendous, and his people skills were nonexistent. I swore I would never be anything like him. Lesson learned.
In order to be taken seriously as a leader, you must lead through experience and competence, not through title or position. It's a big deal to go from the person asking questions to being the one now responsible for answering them. Unfortunately, there are supervisors out there who think that once you get promoted your job is done. True leaders understand it's just the beginning. I will use something from my martial arts background to demonstrate what I mean.
There are those who believe becoming a black belt is quite an accomplishment. It is, but not in the way most believe. Earning your black belt doesn't make you a master but means you have learned the basics of the art you are studying. It signifies the transition to more meaningful learning and a more responsible position in the organization. It doesn't signify anything other than you being a good student who is ready for more.
Most of my martial arts training up to black belt revolved around imitating the movements of my instructors. I did what they did. I acted the way they acted. As I continued my training I began to understand their actions to the point where I could begin teaching as well. In law enforcement, earning your stripes puts you in very much the same position. You know the job and it's time to make sure members of your command know theirs.
Your subordinates will watch you and learn from you. They will follow your lead. We have a quick learning curve. If it's important to you, it will be important to them. If you don't believe me, take a look at your own organization. You know which squads work hard and which do not. You can also identify why; as a matter of fact, you can put a name to it. You will end up naming one of their supervisors as the culprit.