I asked him his thoughts on the way to the call. He rambled about the plight of urban man with social issues, economic disadvantages, and modern day stress. Great, but we ended up fighting our tails off. The male party was the aggressor; we had to arrest him for domestic violence. The female changed her mind, and it was on. If you have never had this happen to you, it will.
Now matter what the stressors of his life were, no recruit and extremely handsome FTO (that's me) would solve urban man's plight while he's in a drunken rage with this wife on that Friday night. When it was all over, the recruit admitted he was never prepared for this to have unfolded in front of him. He saw the light.
Very few preconceived plans in life ever work when put into action. There are as many quotes about this as there are home remedies. I want to give you some insights on how I try to get my students to initiate critical thinking.
When I taught defensive tactics, I would inject a sensory or input overload. You had grown comfortable with a skill provided the aggressors were being controlled from the right-hand side. That's when I would inject an all left-sided scenario. This is my "what to do, what to do, what to do" portion of training. I repeat it three times, loudly. This forces the student to make a decision. On the streets, this is what's going through your mind. Luck and hope are not viable strategies.
The next level of critical decision-making is what I refer to as "but, what, if, and then" thinking. These four words are what I later call Plans A, B, C and D. There are no concrete or easy answers on the street. Therefore, your solutions can be as complex as the variables put before you.
The academy does prepare you for the worse-case scenario. They concentrate on firearms, defensive tactics, and so forth. Great, but we don't always shoot'em or whoop'em. Most often, we talk to them. We tend to negotiate with our contacts towards reasonable, peaceful and amenable solutions.
Even issuing traffic citations, which can be a point of consternation to violators, can be explained and accepted if done so in a professional manner. My biggest point here is that we must retrain your mind to think like a winner not a loser. Winners have answers and solutions.
Train with your mind
as well as your body.