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Original post by bradleyJ
My husband has diabetes and has got a very stressful working environment. He has started medication but they are not of much help. He gets stress about everything in life. It’s driving me nuts. If any of you have any suggestions I would greatly appreciate it. Thanks a lot.
bradleyj....
None of us here are medical doctors, and it would be impossible to give you sound medical diagnosis or advice. However...as professionals that have sworn to help people...I would suggest that you talk it over with him about changing the environment he is in. It may not necessarily mean changing his profession, but rather fiding balance in his life. Before you can solve a problem you have to understand what the root of the problem is.
Communication is a big part in helping your spouse...that is step one. Step two is identifying the root of the problem...which you may have to "interrogate" a man to get it out of him. Mine likes to hide a majority of what is wrong which leaves me to guess what is wrong at times. I can understand your frustration. Step three is what I can't really help you with because it depends on the outcome of step two. Put a plan into action to help change the environment after you can find out what the real problem is. Medical problems, a stressful work environment, and the break down it causes in a person can be serious.
A lot of cops have a stressful work environment, and have medical issues to deal with. We are not perfect people physically. However, we are hounded to stay in shape, and the pressure to do so can be irritating. When the body develops something that the person can't control or has to be medicated for (some people absolutely hate taking meds) it can create a lot of frustration because it interferes with, not only the quality of life for the person, but it can become mental barrier taking away the focus on their goals in life. Diabetes can be a scary thing, especially if you get it young. I have known a small child with it (he almost lost his life because it was so unexpected by his family and his blood sugar was way too low. The family had no idea that he had the disease). The child doesn't understand the illness, and "why can't I be "normal" like everybody else? Do you understand what I am getting at?
You have to communicate with your hubby...(if he's like mine bang him on the head a few times with a skillet...lol (don't really do that...I am just kidding) to find out what is really bothering him. Once you get the drift...then work on changing what needs to be changed. Do it discreetly (without him knowing) for a painless transition like going for walks to talk about stuff. He'll forget he's exercising....that type of thing. Sometimes it's the spouse that has to help execute the changes...or shall I say "the better half" has to help someone from falling into a deep depression or into worse physical shape. The problem might even be entirely different...time management and organizational skills may be needed. Get out a pen and paper and assess the situation like a detective.
Hope this helps. Good luck.
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